Don’t help anyone, unless they ask for it. (at least by their look) After helping them, flee.
Two times I helped, only to regret shortly after.
I identified two reasons:
- If you help before they think they need it. (even if it’s obvious)
You take away their supposed satisfaction of achieving themselves.
You show no confidence in them.
- If you help when in struggle.
The reciprocity principle pressures them to give back.
If the payback is too big to pay. Sadness comes, and the helper is found to be the reason, thus hated.