It’s funny and relieving at the same time. I found the girl I was looking after here. On Tuesday 13th May we met first time.
Not on a dating website. On facebook. (obviously search of single woman friends was useless) And to be fair, maybe she was the one that found me. We were high school colleagues. Butterflies and shit. Me-Tough guy. (Yeah right..)
I was making my profile more interesting to approach with better chances. I was ready to lose the account in the process. (didn’t really cared..)When I get this like, before I even send a message. What if..? A quick read Symposium by Plato.
Symposium, Plato wrote that humans were originally androgynous and whole. There were no men or women. They felt no lack, no uncertainty, and they were powerful, so powerful that they rose up and challenged the gods themselves.
This posed a problem for the gods. They didn’t want to completely wipe out the human race as they’d have no one to rule over. But at the same time they had to do something to humble and distract humanity.
So Zeus split them in half. He split each human into a man and a woman and doomed them to spend their brief mortal existence wandering the world looking for their other half, the half that would make them feel whole and powerful again. And this wholeness came not from two perfections meeting, but two imperfections meeting, two imperfections that both complemented and compensated for one another’s shortcomings.
The artist Alex Grey once said that, “True love is when two people’s pathologies complement one another’s.” Love is, by definition, crazy and irrational. And the best love works when our irrationalities complement one another and our flaws enamor one another.
It may be our perfections that attract one another. But it’s our imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not.